While every man would like to be able to go out and get laid on demand, the unfortunate reality is that it’s just not possible, even for those who have been practicing and refining their game for years. This is especially true in Korea where most girls are much more resistant to same night lays than their western counterparts. In addition to that, there will be plenty of girls who are just not into you. In order to find one girl that you actually like who wants to sleep with you on that one given night, how many approaches do you think you would need to do? Unless you are exceptionally good looking, wealthy, or somehow famous I’m guess that number would be at least 20, and that’s if your game with Koreans is super tight. If you’re new to game or to Korea, that number goes up substantially.
Let’s say though that you’re not looking to get laid that night. To be honest, most of the time I’m not out looking for one night stands either. How many approaches do you think you’ll need to do to get her number? How many numbers do you think will turn into an actual date? How many dates do you think it will take to actually have sex with a girl you’re interested in?
Nobody has a 100% conversion rate or even anything close to it. An exceptionally high phone number to actual sex ratio would be 1 in 10, and even that is just unheard of. More realistically, I would guess that around 1 in 20 or 1 in 30 will convert into actual sex, and that’s if you’re actively pursuing each and every lead.
Now, I know this can sound a bit discouraging, but that’s not the intent here. The point is that ultimately, getting laid is just a numbers game.
If it takes <x> approaches to get a number, <y> numbers to get a date, and <z> dates to get laid, then the only way to improve your odds of getting laid is to do more approaches. The more times you try to talk to girls, the more chances you have of finding one you like who likes you too.
This is especially important in dealing with Korean girls because of their tendency to flake and disappear. You also have to be extra aggressive with following up and your text game needs to be on point. Having some basic Korean language ability will also help, but it’s not a necessity.
After years of practice with Korean girls, I’ve found that about 1 in 10 numbers that I take will lead to a date of some kind. At that point, it becomes a back and forth game of whether I can keep up the game and how much of her crap I’m willing to put up with, but about one in three of those will ultimately lead to sex.
So if you want to get laid, get out there, approach as many women as possible, and start getting it rolling.
[…] It really doesn’t matter what it is that gets your blood flowing, but once you do, you need to start talking to girls immediately. If you wait until you get to the venue before starting, not only do you risk being in the wrong mindset, but you also miss the opportunities you would have had on the street. Always take advantage of everything possible to improve your chances of success. After all, it’s just a big numbers game. […]