Recently while talking to my friend Stallion, I asked him about one of his girls that I had met a couple of weeks before. He looked confused for a minute, then said, “Oh her? Yeah we’re finished.” Then we both laughed a bit, clinked our beers, and started talking about her new replacement in his rotation.
This got me thinking about my other friend Shooter and what was different about these two. Both are young and good with women. Both have solid game and a decent understanding of the female mind, but they had completely different reactions when things ended with a girl. I realized that it was because while Shooter had more than one girl going at a time, he let them stagnate and he made the mistake of getting too attached. Stallion had the right idea.
Never stop spinning plates.
In the player’s dictionary, spinning plates means having multiple girls on the go. Some call it a harem, I personally call it my stable, but it’s all the same thing. You should never be so emotionally and mentally invested in just one girl that losing her could shatter your frame and mindset.
The ideal situation is to have a group of girls, at least 3, on the go regularly that you aren’t especially attached to. Of course you can enjoy their company and your time together, you can go out and have adventures and do fun things. You can make memories that you’ll always have, and when it’s time for one of them to move on, it’s no big loss because your social calendar is still completely full.
Each one of these mini-relationships can be however short or long you want it to be, but it should never be so long that you are emotionally attached to them and would be upset about it ending. In my experience and with my type of girls, that’s usually somewhere between a month to three months. Stallion keeps his a bit differently, and when I asked him the average length of his girls, he told me about 6 to 8 bangs. Depending on how often you’re meeting up with her, I think that would turn out to be about the same amount of time that I usually have one as well.
The beauty of this system is that when one girl leaves the stable, you still have two (or more) girls giving you regular sex and it becomes easy to find a quick replacement for the loss.
Some people think of doing this as morally wrong, but I disagree. Unless there’s a promise of monogamy, which I wouldn’t recommend usually, it’s not a question of morality but of personal choice. On that front, I don’t think of them as relationships, but more like employees in a small business.
My penis is the boss, and needs a certain amount of work done any given week. I could put the burden of that on just one employee, but it would tire out the employee and make me far too dependent on her. If she decided to leave for a different opportunity, as women tend to do rather frequently, I would be left having to do all the work myself. Instead, it’s a much better allocation of resources to spread the work among several different employees. In this way, the work always gets done when it’s needed and when one decides to leave, it leaves me with time to breathe and find another suitable replacement.
The cold streak is one of the most detrimental things in a player’s life. It can easily lead into a downward spiral that decreases personal confidence, decreases motivation to go out and find a new girl (due to reliance on porn and masturbation), and a general lack of motivation for most productive things that you do in your life.
In order to avoid this fate, or that of Shooter, never stop spinning plates.
[…] Tinder is an excellent app that helps connect people all around the country. It’s something of a shooting gallery for prospective singles, more so if you’re attractive. My friend, “Christian”, would match with a large amount of girls that would make the most confident guys jealous. Christian would talk to the girls for a week. He’d get their number and make plans. Things would go well for him. Then, as is common in online dating, no response. A week would go by and he would not get a single text. A second week went by, and he still heard nothing. Any person with a semblance of common sense would be able to figure out that she’s just not interested. He would persist. He would still go to the place where they were to meet in the hopes that she would show up, even after weeks of not speaking. He would rent a hotel room nearby in case he got lucky. He would blow off his group of friends out in Seoul having a blast for the off chance of meeting his tinder match. While this is an extreme example, just know when she’s not that in to you. There’s nothing wrong with that. Just put more effort in your other matches. […]