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Learn From Your Friends’ Mistakes

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Hey players!  Another guest post from my good friend Julius to give you a different perspective.  Follow his advice here and always learn from your friends’ mistakes! -Jack

Having been in Korea a few years, I’ve made a few mistakes of my own by also have seen others do much worse. Ironically, I learned the most through others’ mistakes.

I had a friend in Korea that lived two hours away from Seoul by train in the countryside. Mildly attractive and with a decent enough personality, I thought that he would be a hit with women, foreign and domestic. He would consistently ask our large group of friends and me for advice on meeting women and what to do. He struck out so often with women that it became an ongoing joke. How did someone like him, by no means a socially awkward weirdo, manage to find misery in a country where so many find success? Here’s what he did and what you should avoid. [Read more…] about Learn From Your Friends’ Mistakes

The 2 Biggest Mistakes Guys Make in Text Game

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In Korea text game is absolutely essential.  More than 90% of the girls that I’ve met and dated will all but completely refuse to talk on the phone, even with their own friends and family using their native language.  Instead they prefer to always text instead, which can be either a help or a hindrance to you depending on how you use it.

I’ve written before about the importance of KakaoTalk in Korea, the go-to messaging app choice for Koreans.  Using the app is a step in the right direction, but even from that point you have to tighten up your text game.  In order to do that, it’s crucial to avoid the two biggest mistakes I’ve seen guys make when talking to Korean girls:

  1. You’re texting too much.
  2. You’re not texting enough.

I know that seems counterintuitive at first glance, but follow me as I explain these problems and how to fix them. [Read more…] about The 2 Biggest Mistakes Guys Make in Text Game

Don’t Tinder Korea

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Tinder is the biggest possible waste of your time and energy if you’re looking to meet Korean girls.

It’s a microcosm of shitty American culture coming to Korea and being made even worse.  Every interaction begins with you providing the girl with instant validation of her looks, which in and of itself is not a good beginning.  Then 99% of the time, you have to send messages first and show direct interest, further weakening your hand.  If she even bothers responding to your dancing bear intro or terrible pun, you’re in a situation where you almost have to play into her hand just to get her to meet face to face.  It’s a lazy and weak way of trying to meet girls in general, and it especially doesn’t work in Korea.
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