I originally intended to write this as an analysis of what exactly I said and did in order to get phone numbers from the girls I talked to, but I think that won’t actually be as useful as a broader analysis of the situation and thoughts on what to change going forward. [Read more…] about Reflections on Weekend in Seoul
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Summary of Weekend in Seoul
This last weekend, I had my first weekend out recording my approaches and what happened in trying to look at it more analytically. Overall, it was not a spectacular success or failure, but it did give me some ideas on how to improve my data collection going forward. I’ll start with telling what happened though the night, then give my thoughts on how I can improve this project in the next post. [Read more…] about Summary of Weekend in Seoul
Never Be a Beta Orbiter
If you’re still on it, go to your Facebook or Instagram feed. Look at the profiles of 2 or 3 attractive girls you know. Look at the mind-boggling amount of activity on their pictures in terms of likes and comments. If yours is one of them, you are never ever going to nail her.
These girls know exactly what they’re doing, and with every picture they post, they get more and more likes and followers. It’s attention whoring, pure and simple. If you contribute to that, then I guarantee, she’s never going to give you the time of day. [Read more…] about Never Be a Beta Orbiter
The 3-Day Rule
I’ve heard, as I’m sure you all have, the mysterious rule about not calling a girl for 3 days after getting her number. This is supposed to show that you’re not needy and let her think about how much she likes you and wants to see you again. It was also a rule that was clearly devised before the age of smartphones, OKCupid, and Tinder. I have a different 3-Day rule that I always try to apply, and it’s shown itself to be much more effective than the prehistoric version of not calling / messaging them.
From the time you get her number, you have 3 days to set up the first date. [Read more…] about The 3-Day Rule
Ditch Her
After a long weekend of approaches and getting numbers, you start sending out the Monday messages and try to organize your dates for the week. You get a few bites and set up the details. Then you show up to meet the girl, and something isn’t working for you. Maybe she was hotter after a few beers on Saturday night. Maybe her voice sounds like fingernails on a chalk board. Maybe you just aren’t that interested and you’d rather be playing pool with your buddy instead.
Just let her know the date is over and leave. Ditch her. [Read more…] about Ditch Her