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How to Approach for Introverts

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Whenever I’m coaching a guy or giving him help in the chat group, one of the biggest issues that I hear from them is that they can’t approach girls in public. They want to, but they just… can’t.

I get it completely, approach anxiety is a real issue that I’ve addressed in many of my videos so far.

However, for a lot of guys, they have a tough time with this for more reasons than just basic anxiety.

For a good number of our community, they are just too naturally introverted to go up to a girl and start up a conversation, even if they want to.

As I’m sure you’ve noticed, I’m not an introvert myself. In fact, I’m probably the farthest thing from it. This makes it a bit difficult for me to understand where these guys are coming from and what their issues are. After all, as cool-dude gangster rapper Coolio taught us, “If they can’t understand me, how can they reach me?”

However, after thinking on this issue for a while and having some in-depth conversations with the guys who struggle with this, I’ve come up with a simple 3-step process to help anyone approach women, no matter how introverted you think you are.

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Game in a Nutshell – The Conversation, aka Making the Sale

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What’s going on players?

A while back, I wrote the first part in the Game in a Nutshell series where I taught you all about how to approach girls. I went through it step by step and gave multiple different openers you can use and detailed exactly how to use them with examples.

Now that you’ve actually approached her though… What comes next?

Today we’re going to go through the conversation that you should have with a woman once you’ve approached her, and I’m going to break down every single part of it for you!

Some good news for you older (or more culturally literate) fellows out there – you already know the steps to follow! As Alec Baldwin famously taught us in Glengarry Glen Ross, you need to follow AIDA: Attention, Interest, Decision, Action.

Going through them step by step, I’m going to detail exactly how you can 1) Get Her Attention, 2) Generate Interest, 3) Bring Her to Decision, and 5) Get Her to Act.

NOTE: Throughout this guide, I give rough time estimates of how long things should take. These are not exact, but instead are a rough guide for an ‘average’ interaction. These assume that the approach is happening on the street. If you’re in a bar or other venue where you can chat longer, things will go a bit longer. Experiment with using more or less of the different steps to find what works best for your style in different venues and locations.

 Step 1 – Get Her Attention (The Opener)

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Game in a Nutshell – Approach Women in 4 Easy Steps

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What’s going on players?

I’ve been reading your emails and comments on the forum and taking them all to heart. I often write about advanced game strategies like meeting women on the subway or learning how to spot different types of Korean women or even something like congruence.

By popular request, I’m going to try to bring us back to the basics and focus on the first few levels of game that you should REALLY be learning about.

After all, you can’t go banging broads from the subway if you don’t even know how to approach her in the first place!

This is the first in my “Game in a Nutshell” series, where I break down every single step of beginner-level game to get you talking to girls and on your way to success with Korean women.

Today we’re going to talk about the first thing that everyone wants to know when they’re learning about game…

Approaching.

“Jack, I saw this cute girl but I didn’t talk to her because I didn’t know what to say!”

“Papa Jack, I don’t get how you can just talk to strangers so effortlessly!”

“I dunno.” *Shrug*

Yes, yes, I’ve heard them all, and the good news is that I’m going to break it down for you now, piece by piece.

Step 1 – Choose Your Target Well

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