And the Korean Women who Love Him
Hey players, I hope you’re all having a great Christmas today!
I’m currently writing this from another country where I can’t find reliable wifi, so it’s been difficult for me to post recently. But worry not players, The Head Player himself will be back in Korea shortly!
As we come up to a new year, it’s important to reflect on this year’s successes as well as what the coming year holds for us. [Read more…] about Merry Christmas from the Seoul Players’ Union!
This is part three of The Seoul Player’s Guide to Tindering in Korea. In case you missed them, you can read parts 1 and 2 here – About Me and Pictures.
Today Julius and I will be discussing what many people find to be the hardest part of online dating: Messaging. As always, Julius and I have completely different styles that complement our different personalities. Read the advice from each of us and apply what best fits who you are.
JULIUS: Messaging on here is incredibly easy. After a match, you’re given the opportunity to message. I find that first sending a message about one of her pictures, usually complimenting her beauty and striking conversation on whatever they’re doing or wherever they happen to be in the picture as a fail proof way of getting her interested. If you just message “hey” or “sup”, or worse… a cheesy pickup line (unless intentionally comedic) you’re probably not going to get much notice. Especially taking Korean women into consideration that the majority do not have the fluency you possess of the English language will mean that they will either take it literally or just flat out not understand what you’re saying. A simple “Hey there ;)” is better, having gotten people myself to respond with just that. A little bit of effort goes a long way. [Read more…] about How to Tinder in Korea – Part 3
Welcome to Part 2 of our explanation of Tindering in Korea. Our topic today is pictures. Just like Part 1, this will have one style from Julius and then a different style from me. Let us know which ideas best fit your style by sending an email here!
PICTURES
JULIUS: Arguably the most arbitrary reason for which direction we swipe on a person and likely why we use tinder are because of their profile pictures. This is what will determine 99% of a woman’s interest in you. Just as how we judge them for their pictures and swipe, they do the same albeit at a much harsher rate. For my friends that complain about their lack of success on tinder is usually due to the quality and content of their pictures. Since tinder allows you to connect your Facebook profile, be sure to choose your best pictures. Ensure success by making your profile picture your best picture. Like any dating website, your profile picture is what you use to get their attention and what usually leaves a lasting impression. So make it the one that counts the most. Make it interesting. How? Being in South Korea shows that you’ve probably traveled to other places and seen some interesting things. Put a picture of you standing in front of a palace or other historical monuments. Been to another country? Show pictures of yourself visiting those places. I’ve used photos of myself visiting Japan and Thailand to garner interest and help with conversation with a match. Make yourself look interesting doing things most people have never done before, like mountain hiking or posing in one of Asia’s many skyscrapers with a sweeping view of the city behind you. Try to stand out from the usual shirtless-beer-drinking-guy-at-the-mudfest crowd. [Read more…] about How to Tinder in Korea – Part 2
Hey there, players! I’ve received a lot of interest and feedback asking for more information about Tinder in Korea. I am personally not a big fan of it, but I recognize that there is a desire to hear more advice about it. Fortunately for you guys, my close friend Julius likes Tinder and has a lot to say about it.
Because it’s a topic that has generated such interest, we’ve decided to write out our advice for the different aspects of Tinder as a back and forth column. For each section, Julius will give you his advice first and then I will give a second opinion and advice. We’ve both had success with online dating, but we have very different styles, so hopefully one of us will resonate with your personal style. [Read more…] about How to Tinder in Korea – Part 1
“If you know the enemy and know yourself,
you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.”
-Sun Tzu, The Art of War
Here at the Seoul Player and in many other similar man-friendly spaces online, we spend a lot of time talking about understanding women. We try to understand what they want, what attracts them, how to make ourselves more attractive to them and the like. One subject that we rarely touch on though is knowing ourselves within. This is one of the most important steps that one should take before even setting foot out the door to try to meet women.
This honesty needs to come in several key areas: Intentions and Desires, View of Self, and Realistic Future. [Read more…] about Be Honest With Yourself